I have a confession to make, I’m a gay man and I masturbate. I know, you’re probably thinking “Ewww that’s gross.” But hey, it’s the natural way! Masturbation is a perfectly normal and healthy sexual behavior that many people—gay and straight—engage in.
Now let’s get to the juicy stuff, let me tell you about my experiences with masturbation. Growing up, my peers and I used to talk about it all the time. We’d share tips and tricks on how to make it feel even better. We definitely got innovative in the process. I even remember trying to make some unique homemade sex toys – let’s just say that didn’t end well.
When I came out as queer, I realized that masturbation had taken on a whole new level of significance. I could no longer rely on my straight friends to enlighten me and learn the ropes; I had to take it upon myself to discover the natural sense of pleasure that I could experience as a gay male. I looked all across the internet for advice, from Reddit, Tumblr, and YouTube. The information was plentiful – it was like I had opened up a whole new world to me.
The thing I kept hearing was: lube. Lubricants, to be exact, were the one key source to unlocking better pleasure than ever before. As soon as I tried a lube, I was won over. It felt amazing on my skin and just added yet another layer of sensation to my solo play. I loved it so much, I even wrote about it in an article.
But let’s not forget the important role that toys can play in gay male masturbation. There is an abundance of sex toys now that cater specifically to us. I still prefer my trusty hand, but I do have some high-tech companions like my vibrator and anal dildo that I turn to now and then. They can make my masturbation sessions much more intense and enjoyable – especially when I’m feeling extra frisky! Plus they make for an easy solo date night when no one else is free.
Safe to say, masturbation is a huge part of my life. It is something I take pride in and it brings me immense pleasure. And while there is a huge amount of stigma that surrounds it, I’m more than proud to say that I’m a gay man who partakes in it. Now let me tell you about the second part of my story...
Ever since I began to explore my feelings for and with other gay men, masturbation has actually become more meaningful. When I feel an intense connection with someone, I often take that connection and turn it into a solo session – and those sessions are simply electric. It has become a way of bringing other people into the bedroom and making it that much more passionate.
What makes gay male masturbation unique is the ability to take those feeling of love and lust and experience them in a way that is comfortable and controllable. If those feelings become too overbearing in a real-life situation, masturbating can give me a chance to catch my breath and calm down. It’s like having sex without strings attached – it’s all positive and nothing negative.
Another plus side is that there are certain taboos that can be experienced. Activities such as golden showers and fisting are activities that many people do not engage in, yet can become a source of pleasure. Masturbation gives us the freedom to safely discover these possibilities, while not committing any serious actions.
Self-love is also a powerful tool. Touching our bodies and exploring our erogenous zones is a great way to get to know ourselves better. That understanding can make it easier to explore with partners when the time comes.
I also feel that masturbation is a way of taking care of my mind, body, and soul. Whenever I seem to be going through a rough patch, the simple action of touching myself can be a nice distraction. It can relax me and sex dolls make me realize that everything is going to be okay. Sometimes things don’t always go smoothly, but taking care of myself is always a priority.
Finally, I think the beauty of gay male masturbation is that it can be done cautiously, secretly, and passionately all at the same time. It doesn’t have to be loud or an obnoxious affair. The act itself can be seen as an escape, and as an intimate practice that can be done anywhere and anytime.
So now let me tell you about how I’ve learned to make masturbation an art form. By learning better techniques and styles of stimulation, period sex can become an adventure. I’ve discovered that by slowing down and exploring different ways of inducing pleasure through diverse movements and long-lasting strokes, masturbation can become a journey of understanding.
And when it comes to finding the right kind of pleasure, I’ve realized that experimenting by switching up techniques and adopting new poses is always a great route to take. Whether it’s taking deep breaths or forming new hand formations, the possibilities of exploration are endless.
Lastly, I must say, masturbation isn’t just a sexual pleasure for me, it’s an experience. One that can be experienced alone or even with other people. It’s an intimate dialogue that can help strengthen relationships, regardless of how we define these connections. Whether it’s expressing love, lust, or even curiosity, masturbation can become a unique form of communication.
In conclusion, I would like to emphasize that masturbation can be a tool for self-discovery and finding pleasure. And as far as it being a necessary part of my life, well I believe it’s innovative for any gay man to embark on this path of exploration.